I LOVE YOU

I LOVE YOU!

Awhile back I came across a really good book by Dr. Gary Chapman, Christian counselor and author of: The Five Love Languages. (www.fivelovelanguages.com)

• Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

• Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

• Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

• Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

• Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Did you know; we all express and interpret love differently?

How many times have someone said “I love you”???? And you were thinking their actions were saying, “Something totally different”. Personally, I’ve heard the words “I love you” quite a few times from the man in my life at the time. But, I have always said, “He loved me his way”.

After taking the assessment, I now know my “Love Language” and I’m able to articulate this to those that matter in my life. Knowing your “Love Language” can be very helpful not just in romantic relationships, but in relationships with family members too.

Take the test! You may be surprised. At the very least, being able to verbalize your needs and the needs of others is half the battle, in any healthy relationship.

Go to: www.fivelovelanguages.com  (If it does not download Copy and Paste in your browser )

Live, Love and Laugh Often
Charlette Marie

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1 Comment

  1. Andrea said,

    January 14, 2010 at 12:39 pm

    Good blog Charlette, I think to have a lasting relationhip you must have all Five love languages, it is not enough just to say “I Love You” your partner should and need to see it, feel it, smell it, and touch the love. Anyone can talk the talk, but you and your partner have to walk the walk, not just for one day, but forever, and that is the hard PART.


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