Martin Luther King , Jr. Day

Go to work  or not to go to work today??????              

That is the question?

Today is MLK day, and I’m at work!


To work at work or not to work at work today? 

Now, that is the real question???

Which ever the case, take some time to think about Mr. Martin Luther King Jr. Today!

Live, Love and Laugh Often

Charlette Marie


A LifeLine For Haiti

Lets take a moment to think of and pray for everyone effected by the devastation in Haiti.   And, if you would like to do more, please take a look at the following emails I received:

Switchboard of Miami, Inc. anticipates both an increased call volume and need for community mental health outreach.  Needed are short-term volunteers and interns with backgrounds in mental health, social work, psychology and/or psychiatry to answer incoming calls and to assist with special community mental needs related to the earthquake in Haiti.  Those interested should call or email Carolyn Broughton 305-358-1640 x 159 or

Maryllis Baluja
Resource Coordinator
AIRS Certificed Resource Specialist (CRS)
Switchboard Of Miami
701 SW 27th Avenue, Suite 1000
Miami FL 33135
Tel: (305) 358-1640 x148
Fax: (305) 377-2269

24-Hour HELPline: (305) 358-4357 or 211
TTY: (305) 644-9449 or 211, opt 4


Lifeline Colleagues:

In the wake of the devastating events in Haiti, Switchboard of Miami passed the request for volunteers below onto the Lifeline. If any of your volunteers are willing and able to provide Switchboard with any support, please contact Carolyn Broughton at the number below.

While much of the current need for U.S. Haitian populations is to gain information about the safety and whereabouts of any loved ones they may have there, they may also be experiencing concomitant anxiety and acute stress reactions. In addition, constant images on the news of the terrible suffering there may also be affecting unrelated persons with a history of trauma, including those who have themselves witnessed and survived a disaster in their lifetime. Abundant research shows that disasters and recent traumatic events can trigger re-experiencing of previous traumas, which can be terribly disorienting to such individuals who can’t explain why something that happened in Haiti is bringing up these thoughts and feelings now. It is important for your hotline helpers to be aware of this phenomenon, in case they hear more of these types of complaints from the callers on your various hotlines.

Please feel free to consult and tell your hotline helpers about the Lifeline wallet card, “Tips for Disaster Survivors”, found on our Lifeline materials page of the web site:

Another important resource for talking with individuals who are coping with traumatic events can be found on the CDC web site:

In the longer term, it is likely that the United States will see a significant influx of surviving Haitians over the coming months. A good number will likely be experiencing mental health issues, beyond the already challenging acculturation issues experienced by immigrants. Cities and states that already house a good number of Haitian immigrants will likely see more joining them. Here is a breakdown of current Haitian population distributions in the U.S.: immigration to the United States and Canada#New York City

Again, please see the message from Carolyn above and pass on to volunteers that you think might be able and willing to assist their local efforts in Miami.

Warm regards,

John Draper, Ph.D.
Project Director
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
T: (212) 614-6309
T: (212) 614-6357

National Suicide Prevention LifeLine
With Help Comes Hope

If you are unable to download these sites, please copy and paste on your browser.

Live, Love and Laugh

Charlette Marie



Awhile back I came across a really good book by Dr. Gary Chapman, Christian counselor and author of: The Five Love Languages. (

• Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

• Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

• Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

• Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

• Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Did you know; we all express and interpret love differently?

How many times have someone said “I love you”???? And you were thinking their actions were saying, “Something totally different”. Personally, I’ve heard the words “I love you” quite a few times from the man in my life at the time. But, I have always said, “He loved me his way”.

After taking the assessment, I now know my “Love Language” and I’m able to articulate this to those that matter in my life. Knowing your “Love Language” can be very helpful not just in romantic relationships, but in relationships with family members too.

Take the test! You may be surprised. At the very least, being able to verbalize your needs and the needs of others is half the battle, in any healthy relationship.

Go to:  (If it does not download Copy and Paste in your browser )

Live, Love and Laugh Often
Charlette Marie

Not Forgotten


At times I can hear,
the cry of a child.

When it is dark and silent,
I can feel the pain for awhile.

Unseen, but not forgotten,
I can sometimes feel the essence of its soul.

Would it have been a girl or a boy?
This is the story that will never grow old.

The physical pain,
Is just a memory now?

But, the mental pain,
comes and goes, somehow.

Did I take a life?
Is a question I sometimes ask?

Do I let it go?
And, let it become a part of my past.

I could have gave birth,
And, let nature run its course.

Did I allow personal stress;
to become my primary source?

Give it away!
Is what some might have said.

To a wonderful family;
that would have raised my flesh instead.

What is wrong?
And, what is right?

The suction of machinery;
Or blood baths from a gun fight.

The Spirit never dies;
This is much is true.

My little one will never be forgotten,
Because, God has a plan for you.

Live, Love and Laugh Often
Charlette Marie

What Type Of Kisser Are You?

What Type of Kisser Are you?

1) The “Super-Soaker” Kisser: This is the kisser that leaves your face totally WET after kissing you and in some cases a very strange smell as well.

2) The “Lip-Sucker” Kisser: This is the kisser that is turned on by; sucking on your lips VERY hard and you are praying for them to let GO!

3) The “Tongue-Diver” Kisser: This is the kisser that enjoys trying to make their way down your throat with their tongue.

4) The “Tight-Lip” Kisser: This is the kisser that likes to grind their lips together when they are kissing you. Otherwise, known as the Grandma Kiss.

5) The “I know What You Ate” Kisser: This is the kisser that you can smell what they have ate as they lean in to kiss you and you can even taste it afterward.

6) The “Bootie-Call” Kisser: This is the kisser that will only kiss you either in the dark or after the dark.

7) The “Dry and Crusty” Kisser: This is the kisser that you would seriously consider buying an unlimited supply of lip balm for their birthday.

8) The “Put A leash On Your Tongue” Kisser: This is the kisser that likes to put their tongue in CRAZY places, such as: The inside of your nose or between your toes.

9) The “Noise-Maker” Kisser: This is the kisser that will make some form of a sound EVERY time they kiss you.

10) The “Smooth and Sexy” Kisser: This is the kisser that can kiss you so wonderfully; you know that they are probably wonderful in other areas.

It’s really nothing else to say about kissing. Either it’s good or it’s not. It’s really simple.

Live, Love and Laugh Often
Charlette Marie

Take Care Of You First and Worry About Me Second!

Just Another Question?

Should a MAN have any say so, when it comes to a WOMAN having an abortion?

Well, I say it depends on the CIRCUMSTANCES and the type of RELATIONSHIP the couple has or had.
If they were just SEX BUDDIES or FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS then NO. If they were in a SERIOUS and COMMITTED relationship (and both parties were on the same page), then YES.

This question came to mind; today, because I rode pass an abortion clinic and saw two MEN outside with signs, I guess PROTESTING.

I’ve always wonder why men would protest in front of an abortion clinic? Do they really BELIEVE they have a SAY, in what OTHER women do with their bodies or with what is IN their bodies.

If you haven’t already guessed, I’m Pro-Choice. I believe it is a woman’s RIGHT and hers alone to have an abortion or not.


Because, ultimately, it is the WOMAN who will be taking care of the BABY.…….Statistics shows that!

Now, don’t get me wrong there are men out there who do SHARE in the responsibility of raising their CHILDREN, AND AMEN TO THAT!!! But, there are a lot of men who don’t… AND SHAME ON YOU FOR THAT!!!

I always smile when I see men PROTESTING in front of ABORTION CLINICS. I think it is really funny to see a MAN trying to speak on something that I feel is NONE of their BUSINESS.

I mean, some men and some women are standing behind the fact that it is a SIN to kill.

GRANTED I will give you that, however, we don’t see people protesting about the SINS of these so called protesters.

It’s funny how people are quick to judge one SIN against another;
Like one sin is worst then other.

Sin is a Sin…..big or small

Lesson for today:

“Let’s judge less and love more”

Live, Love and Laugh Often
Charlette Marie

Stay In Your Own Lane

Stay In Your Own Lane!

What is it; with men not staying in their own lane?? I don’t understand why so many men want the same Rights or Privileges as women?
We as women have certain Rights and Privileges that men should not want or care to have. It seems as though; men have become confused about the Rights and Privileges made for women verse the Rights and Privileges made for men.

So, I would like to do a recap on the Rights specifically made for women:

1) To be moody (and, I’m not talking about PMS)
2) Change our mind as often as we like
3) To be pursued by a man
4) To be picked up for a date (if we are comfortable letting the man know where we live)
5) To have a bill or two paid by the man who says “he is interested “
6) To have the trash taken outside by the man who says “he is interested”
7) To have the date paid for in full including the tip (majority of time)
8) To have the man make the first phone call upon meeting (It’s about showing interest)
9) To have doors opened
10) To be treated like a rare and delicate flower that we are!

And, there are so many more!!!!!!

Now, I’m not speaking for or about all women. Because just as some men don’t want to stay in their lane; there are women who don’t want to stay in their lane either.

Also, let’s not forget about the ones who want to ride the middle lane.

And, with that said,

The lesson for today is:

Can we all just stay in our own lanes? Life would be so much easier and perhaps a little happier for all concerned.

Live, Love and Laugh Often

Charlette Marie

What Type Of Lover Are You?

What type of lover are you?

1) The “Duck-and-Weave Lover”: This is the lover; that has no idea what they are doing, but they think they do.

2) The “Pogo-Stick Lover”: This is the lover; that is moving all over the place, but not in the right place.

3) The “Kitchen-Countertop Lover”: This is the lover that is down for whatever; anywhere and anytime.

4) The “It’s-All-About-Me Lover”: This is the lover; that will go out of their way to please you; however, it is really all about their own enjoyment and not yours. (This one can be tricky)

5) The” Wanna-Be-Superman Lover”: This is the lover; that with a dose of Kryptonite they can be ALL That!

6) The “That-A-Boy or Girl Lover”: This is the lover; that needs a lot of encouraging words to perform at their fullest potential.

7) The “Here-We-Go-Again Lover”: This is the lover; that you could set your watch to. (you always know what is coming next).

8) The “Do-Over Lover”: This is the lover; that think the second time around will be really, really better.

9) The “Say-What-You-Mean and Mean What You Say-Lover”: This is the lover; that talked a good game, but did not or could not back it up.

10) The “Toe-Twisting Lover”: This is the lover; that seems to have magical powers.

Good relationships are not all about the type of ‘loving’ you are getting or not getting. There are other variables that make a good relationship….Trust, Honesty, Faithfulness, Compatibility, Ability to effectively communicate with one another, Intimacy etc. And, if you can laugh out loud together, that is half the battle.

Lesson For Today:
Good lovers can be those partners that we are emotionally and mentally attracted to.

Live, Love and Laugh Often
Charlette Marie

One Night I Had A Dream

One night I had a dream….
Where, there was serenity,
Tranquility, and abundance of

All were free,
Able to let live…Able to just be.

There were no confusions, no illusions,
We all had a purpose to fulfill.
And, everything we said or did, was based on love,
So, therefore, we knew it was real.

One night I had a dream…
There was only one church, and we were all the same.
Giving praise to our heavenly father,
And, always asking in Jesus name.

There was No sickness, No sadness,
No worries, No fears,
No poverty, No hunger,
No pain, No tears.

One night I had a dream… and, all was good,
As God had planned it to be.
His secret plan, had been revealed,
His love for us had set us free.

One night I had a dream…
And, God spoke to me.

“You are free from your sinful nature
No longer a slave to temptation.
You are free to live in the light,
And, the Holy Spirit, will be your salvation”

“Maintain love, admiration; endure separation.
Know when the time is right,
We will unite”.

“Spread the Good News,
Multiplication is the key.
Sacrifice your earthly life,
And, I will bless all, who put their trust in me”.
One night I had a dream…
And, I cried in my sleep.
Soon, I would awake,
And, this would be a sweet memory to keep.

As, I laid in my bed,
With my eyes closed tight.
Not wanting to get up,
And, afraid to turn on the lights.

Thoughts of my dream,
Gave me power from within,
I had comfort in knowing,
It was just the beginning, and the not the end.

One night I had a dream…
And, the world was as it should be.
Full of Love, Peace
And Harmony.

One night I had a dream…
And, reality spoke to me.

Charlette Marie

I will be posting my next poem soon.

Title: One Night I had a dream.

Live, Love and Laugh Often,

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