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I’m in the final stages of creating my new website….THE CONVERSATIONAL CORNER.   This site will be about ALL that is important to me.  I’m planning on having an internet radio talk show on blog talk radio and have my shows featured on my new website: http://www.conversationalcorner.com

My show will be a platform to discuss issues that are affecting our families and relationships.  My goal is to collectively find the answers to creating a healthier and happier society. Topics such a relationships, education and of course the incarceration system will be addressed.    Visit me http://www.conversationalcorner.com and of my new Internet radio show at www.blogtalkradio.com/conversationalcorner

Until then, be true to you.

Are you really available??

OK, this is day 3 of me really thinking about the lack of evolution surrounding our relationships.   

I have a lot going on right now, which has nothing to do with my relationships.  But, the more I think about it; maybe it does, because if I’m feeling stressed, frustrated and overwhelmed, it has to boil over somewhere; and normally, its spills out on to the ones closest to us.  Maybe, I should take a closer look at how my life is affecting those closest to me?  That’s what I really mean, when I say; “the lack of evolution surrounding our relationships”.

When I speak about relationships; I’m speaking in terms of ALL types of relationships. 

Family relationships; Workplace relationships; Neighborhood /Community relationships and of course the relationship, we have with ourselves.  I’m going to examine all aspects of relationships and try to expose the necked truth as to why our relationships are in such a distorted dysfunctional reality? And, ultimately; bring about awareness and a consciousness for all us to put more effort into creating healthier more loving relationships.

Yesterday, I mentioned, that I had met this guy who wanted to be VERY available to me, within 3 days.  I told him, the next man I choose to be with, MUST be available.   I always seem to attract men that are unavailable, either emotionally, mentally, spiritually or physically.  So, when this most recent guy, was trying to be VERY available to me, why did it turn me off????   It was just too much, too soon!!   

So, I guess the real question is, “Do I really want a man to be available to me???  Or was he just not my type”?

This is what some men would say is the problem.  That some women do not know what they want?  But, I wouldn’t say “that at all”. 

 I know what I want…..I just, want…. What I want….. When I want it!!!

 Am I spoiled, or am I exercising my God-given right.

 Only, time will tell!

Until next time,

     Love and Be Loved,

              Charlette Marie

Is He ‘Feeling’ Me?

Well, my quest continues; as I try to unlock the mysteries of this thing we call “Relationships”.  I have a lot questions. Some that have been answered and some that have not.  I have been fascinated with the term ‘relationships’ for a long time.  It is fascinating to me, that we, men and women were put here to co-exist together…….. harmoniously, I would think? But, as we all know, most of us are not experiencing this harmonious way of living in a relationships.  I ‘am in search of answers to questions, old and new as to ‘why’ our ‘relationships ‘are struggling to stay alive.

I heard something today, which was very interesting to me.  I have heard it before, but for some reason today, it was like I heard it for the first time.   You know sometimes we have to hear things at different times, in different ways and from different people; before you actually ‘hear it’. 

Men don’t commit based on a time frame.  They commit based on a ‘Feeling of wanting to commit’. 

Key word there is “FEELING”… Well, who knew that?  It’s not about being with him for years and years or nagging him, giving him good sex, not giving him sex at all, breaking-up with him, only to go back at the end of night or making him jealous.  A man has to FEEL IT!!  And, for the record, he has to feel it, on his own.  There is nothing we can do to push it along.  Very interesting!

I was in a 10 year so-called relationship.  Looking back on it now, I was really in a relationship all by myself.  I can laugh at it now.  I tried every possible ‘game’ in the book, to get this man to commit.  I tried all of the above and some others. And, nothing worked.  Needless, to say, we are not together today. I got tired of trying to make something happen, which just was not going to happen.

Now, on the hand, I just meant a guy a week ago and he was ready to commit.  When I say, “he was ready to commit” he was ready within 3 days!!!! He was “Feeling” something!!!  But, I was not.  He wanted to explore getting to know each other, exclusively.   I have never heard of that!  I can see becoming exclusive, but not starting out a relationship exclusive.  What is that about?

Don’t get me wrong, I felt like that for the 10 year guy. I knew right away, I wanted to be him and only him.   It was a ‘feeling’.  It seems as though; women get the ‘feeling’ more often and sooner, then men. 

I guess another question would be? As women, how do we know the ‘feeling’ means “men want to commit to us or just have sex”?

I have a lot of work to do.

Until next time,

      Love and be loved

                Charlette Marie

Not Forgotten

NOT FORGOTTEN

At times I can hear,
the cry of a child.

When it is dark and silent,
I can feel the pain for awhile.

Unseen, but not forgotten,
I can sometimes feel the essence of its soul.

Would it have been a girl or a boy?
This is the story that will never grow old.

The physical pain,
Is just a memory now?

But, the mental pain,
comes and goes, somehow.

Did I take a life?
Is a question I sometimes ask?

Do I let it go?
And, let it become a part of my past.

I could have gave birth,
And, let nature run its course.

Did I allow personal stress;
to become my primary source?

Give it away!
Is what some might have said.

To a wonderful family;
that would have raised my flesh instead.

What is wrong?
And, what is right?

The suction of machinery;
Or blood baths from a gun fight.

The Spirit never dies;
This is much is true.

My little one will never be forgotten,
Because, God has a plan for you.

Live, Love and Laugh Often
Charlette Marie

Stay In Your Own Lane

Stay In Your Own Lane!

What is it; with men not staying in their own lane?? I don’t understand why so many men want the same Rights or Privileges as women?
We as women have certain Rights and Privileges that men should not want or care to have. It seems as though; men have become confused about the Rights and Privileges made for women verse the Rights and Privileges made for men.

So, I would like to do a recap on the Rights specifically made for women:

1) To be moody (and, I’m not talking about PMS)
2) Change our mind as often as we like
3) To be pursued by a man
4) To be picked up for a date (if we are comfortable letting the man know where we live)
5) To have a bill or two paid by the man who says “he is interested “
6) To have the trash taken outside by the man who says “he is interested”
7) To have the date paid for in full including the tip (majority of time)
8) To have the man make the first phone call upon meeting (It’s about showing interest)
9) To have doors opened
10) To be treated like a rare and delicate flower that we are!

And, there are so many more!!!!!!

Now, I’m not speaking for or about all women. Because just as some men don’t want to stay in their lane; there are women who don’t want to stay in their lane either.

Also, let’s not forget about the ones who want to ride the middle lane.

And, with that said,

The lesson for today is:

Can we all just stay in our own lanes? Life would be so much easier and perhaps a little happier for all concerned.

Live, Love and Laugh Often

Charlette Marie